In Episode 7 of Bearing It All, Kate Ginsberg, founder and CEO of Queen of To Do, sits down with Kadena Tate, revenue strategist, speaker, and founder of 50 Shades of Paid, for an unfiltered conversation on perfectionism, power, and the truth about leadership.
Kadena shares how decades of high-achieving, military-rooted structure gave way to a more human-centered, truth-telling business model. Together, they explore money mindset, feminine leadership, and how to lead without martyring yourself along the way.
The cost of perfectionism, the layers of money shame, and why honesty is the real leadership flex
We'll learn about:
Why perfectionism doesn’t just block success but also breeds self-doubt in others
The emotional reality of scaling: what $100K vs. $1M reveals about money beliefs
How female leaders can shift from overgiving to empowered boundaries
What it means to lead with reciprocity and shared vision, not just control
How authenticity really has no competition
You're encouraged to reflect on the hidden patterns you've outgrown.
What “good girl” rules are you still following? And who could you become if you finally let them go?
“You will meet yourself at every step. The lazy you, the perfectionist you, the people-pleaser. But if you relax, take a deep breath, and trust yourself. You’ll be just fine.
— Kadena Tate
Kadena opened up about how the pressure to be “on” and perfect created more harm than good, not just for her, but for her clients. Letting go of control helped her build a coaching practice rooted in presence and trust instead of pressure.
Kadena (00:57): “I was tired of being an A-student who didn’t understand money… Some businesses are simply not set up to scale. If you're coaching one-to-one, you have to pull it out the mud every time.”
Burnout led to clarity. After years of pushing herself and pulling her clients with her, Kadena began designing business models that supported scale, especially for women service providers ready to stop trading time for money.
Kadena (11:15): “When you’re in perfectionism energy, you’re also in overgiving energy… you assume a false sense of responsibility for that person’s success.”
Kadena and Kate unpack how the desire to “do it all right” often creates dysfunctional business dynamics, especially for women. Healthy leadership starts with healthy self-trust and clear expectations, not rescuing everyone around you.
Kadena (16:58): “There’s not enough, just enough, and more than enough. I was always operating in ‘just enough,’ which always became ‘not enough.’”
Kadena (18:29): “Your nervous system needs to be attuned to the safety of money. Not just the literacy of it.”
Whether you're just starting or scaling to 7-figures, Kadena stresses that money patterns aren't just numbers. They're body-based. Creating safety around asking, receiving, and keeping money is part of the real work of growth.
Kadena (12:05): “If we’re not looking at the same goal, then we don’t need to be together.”
Shared vision isn’t just a nice idea. It’s the foundation of team health, client relationships, and business culture. Kadena speaks to the discomfort of letting go of misaligned partnerships and the liberation that follows.
Perfectionism is a self-sabotage loop, especially for high achievers.
Money mindset isn't intellectual. It's nervous system work.
Integrity is a leadership advantage, not a soft skill.
Clear boundaries create thriving client and team relationships.
You define success. Not society, not tradition, not fear.
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