Hi. I’m Heather, the COO and co-owner of Queen of To Do.
We’re a luxury personal assistant service here in Austin, Texas.
Unlike TaskRabbit or gig-style platforms, our personal assistants are employees. That means the support you get is long-term: someone who learns your life, your house, your personality, your family, your quirks, your eccentricities. They figure out your drop zones, like the way my desk just fills up with stuff. They’re proactive. They fix things for you before you even realize they need fixing.
I’m not our typical client, but I’m lucky to get support from Queen of To Do as part of being a co-owner of the company.
I’m neurospicy. ADHD is part of my world.
Some of y’all other neurospicy ADHD'ers out there might be familiar with the idea of the impossible task. Sometimes you get a task that isn’t functionally difficult to complete, but for whatever reason, your brain just will not engage. Won’t connect. And it sits on your list. It makes you feel guilt.
It just drags you down.
And if you have that impossible task, it prevents you from getting anything else done. It’s all your brain can obsess about - but not complete. And then you can’t do anything else. The laundry piles up. You never make the doctor’s appointment or the vet appointment. You stop taking care of yourself. Everything goes to the wayside.
There have been times when those tasks have driven me into depression and increased my anxiety.
Enter the power of having a personal assistant.
I have mine for about 20 hours a week right now. Her name’s Kiara. She’s like my right hand and BFF at this point. She comes in. She takes care of the mountain of laundry. The dishes. She sorts through a doom pile or two every week. We’re slowly catching up on some of the clutter and some of the junk that doesn’t need to be here.
She also provides the incredibly powerful out: I can give her the impossible task, and I know she’s going to get it taken care of. And I don’t have to carry that anymore. I cannot express how freeing this is for me.
One major impossible task we’ve been tackling together is my garage.
Without Kiara’s help (and Dave’s too), this is a project that would feel completely immovable.
I don’t have that feeling of failure because I can’t be what society tells me I should be: professionally successful, single mom, supermom, holding up the house, doing everything by myself, without support or help.
Support goes a long way. It’s been so incredibly powerful for me.
I was a believer in the mission before I came on. I was a stay-at-home mom. I know the invisible labor. I know the mental load. But when I was finally able to get actual in-home help on an ongoing basis… the relief was incredible.
Now I can keep my weekends and evenings. I can spend time with my kids. Volunteer. Do the things that bring value to my life and the lives of my family, instead of the fricking dishes.
I really encourage anyone who has the means, especially if you’re a little neurospicy, to ask for help.
Get support. Reap the benefits. Feel how good life is when the impossible task isn’t hanging over you anymore.
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